How to Forgive Others and Get Free: A Bhagavad Gita Perspective

Forgiveness is often seen as an act of kindness toward others, but from the perspective of the Bhagavad Gita, it is primarily a path to personal freedom and inner peace. The Gita teaches that holding on to anger, resentment, or revenge binds the soul in negativity, while forgiveness purifies the heart and leads to liberation.



The Nature of Forgiveness in the Gita

Though the Bhagavad Gita does not use the word "forgiveness" frequently, its entire message is rooted in detachment, compassion, and transcendence—all of which are necessary for true forgiveness.

One of the key qualities of a divine person, according to Krishna, is kshama (forgiveness):

“Humility, nonviolence, patience, honesty, simplicity... forgiveness, compassion for all living beings — these are the qualities of one born with divine nature.” (Gita 16.1–3)

Forgiveness is not weakness; it is a divine strength that reflects a mind free from ego and a heart full of love.

Understanding Karma and Forgiveness

The Gita teaches the law of karma—every action has consequences. When someone wrongs us, we often want justice or revenge. But Krishna explains that everyone is bound by their karma and acts according to their nature:

“The soul is neither the doer nor the enjoyer; it is only the modes of nature that act.” (Gita 3.27)

Understanding this helps us detach from personal blame. When we realize that people act out of ignorance, fear, or conditioning, we become less reactive and more forgiving. This shifts our mindset from "Why did they hurt me?" to "They are also on their path, learning and evolving."

Letting Go of Ego

The main obstacle to forgiveness is the ego—our false sense of pride and identity. When someone offends us, it is usually our ego that feels attacked. But Krishna repeatedly urges Arjuna to rise above ego and see the eternal Atman (self) within all:

“He who sees the same Self in all beings, and all beings in the Self, never hates or hurts anyone.” (Gita 6.29)

Seeing others as souls on their journey helps us move from judgment to compassion. We forgive not because they deserve it, but because we no longer wish to carry the burden of hatred.

Forgiveness as Inner Freedom

Forgiveness is not about approving someone’s wrongdoing. It is about freeing ourselves from the mental prison of anger and resentment. Krishna teaches equanimity—to remain balanced in pleasure and pain, success and failure. Similarly, when we forgive, we reclaim our inner peace.

“A person who is not disturbed by the incessant flow of desires—that enter like rivers into the ocean—can achieve peace.” (Gita 2.70)

When we forgive, we become like that ocean—vast, full, and undisturbed by passing waves.

Surrender and Freedom

Ultimately, the Gita calls for surrender to the Divine. When we surrender our pain and trust in God’s justice and mercy, forgiveness becomes natural.

“Offer all actions to Me, take refuge in Me. I will liberate you from all sins; do not grieve.” (Gita 18.66)

Conclusion

From the Gita’s viewpoint, forgiveness is not about changing others—it is about transforming ourselves. Through knowledge, compassion, detachment, and surrender, we let go of hurt and find true inner freedom. Forgiveness becomes a gift we give to ourselves, and a reflection of the divine nature within.